Last night at work (remember I work grave yard shift) was letting my mind wander….not necessarily a good thing, but also not necessarily a bad thing. I began thinking of the how Jason and I met. You see, we did not have the “traditional” way of meeting. We met online through people2people.com. Yeah, I know what you may be thinking…. ‘freaks.’ I thought the same thing, (there are so many weirdos out there!) but you must know, I found out about this website from what I thought was a reliable source….KUTV 2. Yep, on the news. I vividly remember Shauna Lake talking about this and as I sat there watching the newscast, I thought “well what could it hurt?” There I was a single, newly divorced mommy of two young children. I always thought to myself that there would be no one that would want to take on a relationship with someone who already had kids…kids that were as young as mine (11 months and 27 months).
The next morning I decided to create a profile and see where it led. My pending divorce had already taken nearly 2 ½ years. I knew I hated being a mommy and a daddy to the girls as their biological father was currently in prison due to the charges I pressed on him (he just could not understand that I was NOT his personal punching bag). I created a profile, but I really did not go into much detail about myself just in case I was contacted by one of them “cyber freaks.” The way the site worked is you had to send your messages with the use of a “stamp.” This cost $2.50 per stamp. You could wink at all the people you wanted for free after viewing their profile, but to send a message for more info, it cost ya.
I happened to come across a profile and I sat there and read it. I remember the person’s screen name perfectly… Hvnsent4you. Yes, as I “chatted” with this person, I become more and more aware of just how heaven sent he really was. I sent him “stamps” a few times so there was no reason I would not get a response to the messages I had sent requesting more information on him. After a few times of going back and forth, I felt comfortable with giving out my personal email address. That would be a lot easier so I would not continue having to pay to communicate with each other. I remember the nights that we would email all night long ---getting to know each other. We emailed back and forth many times and finally I learned of this Heaven sent guy’s name… Jason.
From the very beginning, I did tell Jason that I was previously married and had two little girls and if that would be a problem for him, then we should cut all ties and move on. He was actually thrilled to meet my daughters, but I did hold off for a few more months. One day he asked if could call me. I was not sure, so I gave him my cell number and thought if he is another cyber freak then I can just change my number…easy enough right? I remember the first time he called me. The first thing he said to me was “good morning, how is your day going so far?” We sat and talked and got to know each other more. I asked him about his family and he told me where he lived and come to find out, he lived not too far from where I grew up. Shockingly enough, we had never crossed paths. I asked about his mother, but he said she was not really too involved in his life. I asked about his grandparents and he told me he had a grandmother that had taught at the school I attended. Small world, but she was actually my grade school teacher and also one of my favorite. Mrs. Stone… wow what a small world right? We continued to have these telephone conversations for a few more months.
I finally got up the nerve to see if Jason wanted to meet face to face. I had just taken my daughter to the doctor for a possible ear infection. I decided what the heck and called to see if he would like to meet up for lunch even though it was only 10 am. We decided I would go pick him up and we would hit up the local Arby’s. Little did I know at the time that this was his favorite fast food joint?
I remember pulling into his dad’s driveway and out came this tall guy with long hair down the middle of his back, big skull necklace, earring in his ear of a cross and the most awful and annoying yellow Garfield tank top. My first impression of him was “freak!” and to run and not look back. We went and had lunch and then I dropped him off back to his house and went home.
I did not want much to do with him after seeing him face to face. Yes, he was the nicest guys but his wardrobe choice could use some help I thought. He would call and I told my dad I was not there. One time Jason called to talk and my dad –bless his heart- answered the phone and said into the receiver… “she said she is not here.” Gee, thanks Dad! I grabbed the phone and tried to not look like the snob I am sure Jason thought I was. I tried to avoid him at all costs, but it was not easy. He called all the time and when I quit taking his calls, he started sending me the most beautiful red roses to my work. One time we even delivered them personally. I kept telling my dad I didn’t want to date him, but being the wise man my dad is, he told him to just give Jason a chance.
Jason asked me to go out on a date with him and the first time we went, he took me to Tony’s pizza in Ogden. We really enjoyed ourselves. I absolutely loved the truck he drove! It had been his grandfather’s, but his grandfather had recently passed away. It was a dark brown Ford F250, with all the accessories to make this truck any guy’s dream. After we ate dinner, Jason took me to meet his brother Josh, his wife and the cutest niece whom he talked about all the time (Taylor). I will never forget the first time meeting his brother. I had never laughed as much as I did that night. It was quite apparent from that moment that Jason had the utmost respect for his little brother and cared about what his brother thought of him.
As more time went on, I learned to really love Jason and all that he had to offer me. He was not my boyfriend, but he was my best friend. The person I could tell anything to and not be judged. I loved it went he kissed me good night at the end of our dates and I loved his warm embrace when he hugged me. I also absolutely loved his huge sense of humor. As time went on, Jason really proved to me that yes, he was heaven sent for me and we were married February 14, 2001.
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